My last post, How Long Does a Sexual Awakening Take?, dealt with the fact that an awakening is sometimes a process, and one must be patient during that process. This one will tackle the other side of the marriage: Typically, the high-drive spouse, the partner of the “awakened” spouse.
So, how do you react when your spouse has had/is having an awakening? Now, the only experience I have is my own to draw on, though I have read bits and pieces of others. An awakening is fairly rare (once per couple max) event, and very few people are willing to discuss it openly, because, well, it has to do with their sex life. But I have seen some similarities in comments, posts, forums, and the like, with my experience, so I don’t think mine is that radically different than the majority. That said, I could be wrong, so keep that in mind. Continue reading
Just so everyone is on the same page: the term “Awakening” is used in many Christian Marriage communities to describe a point where a spouse who has been refusing (limiting sex in the relationship), or one who just has an extremely low (or no) libido, suddenly turns around and realizes sex is important, or that they have a sex drive after all.
There is typically one single conversation, a moment, or something defining that suddenly changes the relationship, whether it be a conversation between spouses, a conversation with a friend, a book, a blog article, a sermon, a verse, a prayer, God’s voice, whatever. In every case I have seen, heard, or read about (including my own), there is one pivotal instant where everything changes. Continue reading
Did you know that today, statistically, your marriage is at higher risk than any other day? Yep, it’s the day after mother’s day, and if have kids, and you you didn’t make your wife feel appreciated for being their mother, then chances are, your relationship is at it’s yearly low today. Continue reading
There seems to be a recent trend of marriage bloggers (particularly in the CMBA) posting their “confessions” as a marriage blogger. Most of them seem to be sort of “get to know me” points as well. So I will attempt to continue the trend. I realize I’m a little late to jump on the wagon, but I guess never late than never. So here we go: Continue reading