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Desire vs. willingness-Yesterday I promised I’d write a post on desire vs. willingness, because, again, this is a topic I’ve mentioned many times, but never devoted a post to. Our society teaches us that we shouldn’t have sex unless we desire it. In movies, both of the romantically involved characters are suddenly burning with passion before they […]
Is masturbation for medical reasons okay?-I received this question a couple of days ago through our anonymous Have A Question page and wanted to tackle it quickly as it seemed time sensitive. In the case of medical necessary, is masturbation and pornography okay? Backstory: We’re struggling with infertility. I am a recovering porn/masturbation addict. I’m not perfect but I’m trying. […]
SWM026: Last Minute Father’s Day Gift Ideas-Father’s Day is this Sunday, and I thought we’d share some last-minute Father’s Day gifts for those wives who listen to the podcast. We’ve got some free options, some not-so-free options and some options that are a bit of an investment, but all of them you can manage to pull off even the day before […]
Week 50: Reclaim some vulgar language in the bedroom-This week I have a challenge that may make you uncomfortable. A few weeks ago, I challenged you to use some erotic talk in the bedroom and suggested a game you can use to lead your spouse into this type of talk. This week I’m going to push a bit harder. I want you to […]
This 2 page PDF offers some questions for spouses to ask each other about their love life together. Some are tame, to get your started, some a bit more adventurous, and some require you to open up, be vulnerable and discover what true intimacy is about.
Marriage not quite what you were expecting when you said “I do”? Unfortunately, this is the experience of a lot of spouses, whether they be newlyweds, transitioning to parenthood, raising teens, empty-nesters, or any other stage of life. For many, marriage just didn’t seem to work out as well as…
Having trouble achieving orgasm? This guide will teach you some of the physiological, psychological, emotional, theological and relational methods of increasing your chance of experiencing orgasms more often.
Are you a husband that is desperate to understand his wife and her most intimate needs? This is a marriage book that is just right for you. It will address issues that you are struggling with as a man and how it affects your marriage. In order to increase the…
What you’ll get with the course Over 100 pages of text split into chapters and lessons that you can go through at your own pace 7 challenges throughout the course to help you change your marriage Bonus lessons for those wives who really want to stretch themselves An online community…
Are you a woman that is craving intimacy with her husband, but it feels like all he wants out of you is sex? This marriage book is for the wife that wants to understand her husband’s sex drive. Most women will be floored to understand what their husbands are actually…
This devotional came about because I had a coaching client who was having trouble feeling forgiven by God. He was sorry for his sins, was working to change his life, but something was holding him back from accepting forgiveness. So, I put together this 13 day devotional for him, to better understand what…
The blog is fantastic. I have no doubt that many many Christians struggle with the issue of sex because of it being taboo in the church. I think you are doing a MASSIVE for the body of Christ. I'm serious, the things you discuss are just amazing. I love reading the comments in response. Keep up the awesome work.
Bless you and your family
Last weekend, I decided I was going to have a talk and bring up some of the sexual things, etc. well, it went horribly and we ended up in a big fight. However, the end result has been positive. She let me know some things that have been bothering her (I recognized them as well) and this week I have tried to do more of the things she mentioned. Last night we had sex for the first time in about 3 weeks and it was great. We still have problems in the bedroom and other parts of our relationship to ...
Cried myself to sleep many many nights. Until I stumbled across Jay Dee's site. His story actually got through to my husband about how it feels to be refused. At first he when I would send Jay's posts to his email he didn't want any part of it. At some point it got through and he has been truly making a huge effort. We are still working on things and have several issues to sort out. But my life has improved a million times.
...we listened to the Podcast with you on "What sex means to a man" and your insight has really brought change to our relationship ... Your explanation that sex is really the main way a man feels loved and appreciated really resonated with both of us. In the last few weeks we have made intimacy, sexual, and otherwise a much greater priority in our marriage and not only has our sex life gone to a new level, but our entire marriage has! Thank you for sharing your insight with others.
Thank you for all you do it comes from the heart and it shows. You have helped me in my marriage more than anyone I know other than Jesus. Keep up the great work.
Your website has really ministered to my marriage.
Thanks for continuing to tackle the more challenging/least discussed topics on sex. Our marriage has benefited from simply having a starting point for conversations, so thank you.
Thank you so much for your kind words and support! I started feeling better as soon as I started writing my thoughts, and feeling better yet reading your reply.
My wife and I both read your blog on a regular basis and often discuss your posts together – it’s a real help to our marriage.
Thank you. Somehow you’ve made this very scary topic seem less scary. … You really are helpful, and I just can’t thank you enough. I don’t even know you, but deep down, I just have an overwhelming sense of appreciation and gratitude.
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