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Survey Personal Grooming Survey - I received a question about a week ago regarding personal grooming, and in the question they stated: [My wife] claims that NO ONE does that every week, month or more than once or twice a year… For those of you who have been around here for a while, you know I hate generalizations like that. […]

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Latest Anonymous Question

Anonymous Question Is it unreasonable to expect my spouse to remove their pubic hair? - Some of you may recognize this question from our Personal Grooming Survey (go fill it out if you haven’t already): Is it unreasonable for me (husband) to expect my wife to continue to remove pubic hair, like she did when we were dating? We’ve been married 11 years (second for both of us), and she’s indicated […]

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Latest Podcast Episode

Sex Within Marriage Podcast Image for Posts SWM024: Why Do Men Think Sex is a Reward? - Often men see sex as a reward, even when it’s not intended for one.  Conversely, if they don’t have sex, sometimes they feel punished, or that they failed at something.  Why is this?  I think there are three reasons: Hormones – specifically dopamine, the “reward” hormone. Society – We’re taught that sex = winning Sex […]

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Latest Marriage Challenge

A Year of Marriage Challenges - Week 32 -Sex in the Bathroom Week 32 – Sex in the Bathroom - Well, it’s Monday and time for another marriage challenge. This week the challenge is to have sex in a bathroom.  Why?  Well, believe it or not, this comes up a fair number of times in my inbox.  Usually it’s a couple on vacation, they’re sharing a room with their kids, and the only space for […]

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Last weekend, I decided I was going to have a talk and bring up some of the sexual things, etc. well, it went horribly and we ended up in a big fight. However, the end result has been positive. She let me know some things that have been bothering her (I recognized them as well) and this week I have tried to do more of the things she mentioned. Last night we had sex for the first time in about 3 weeks and it was great. We still have problems in the bedroom and other parts of our relationship to ...

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Cried myself to sleep many many nights. Until I stumbled across Jay Dee's site. His story actually got through to my husband about how it feels to be refused. At first he when I would send Jay's posts to his email he didn't want any part of it. At some point it got through and he has been truly making a huge effort. We are still working on things and have several issues to sort out. But my life has improved a million times.

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...we listened to the Podcast with you on "What sex means to a man" and your insight has really brought change to our relationship ... Your explanation that sex is really the main way a man feels loved and appreciated really resonated with both of us. In the last few weeks we have made intimacy, sexual, and otherwise a much greater priority in our marriage and not only has our sex life gone to a new level, but our entire marriage has! Thank you for sharing your insight with others.

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Thank you for all you do it comes from the heart and it shows. You have helped me in my marriage more than anyone I know other than Jesus. Keep up the great work.
Your website has really ministered to my marriage.
Thanks for continuing to tackle the more challenging/least discussed topics on sex. Our marriage has benefited from simply having a starting point for conversations, so thank you.
Thank you so much for your kind words and support! I started feeling better as soon as I started writing my thoughts, and feeling better yet reading your reply.
My wife and I both read your blog on a regular basis and often discuss your posts together – it’s a real help to our marriage.
Miss Sunshine
Thank you. Somehow you’ve made this very scary topic seem less scary. … You really are helpful, and I just can’t thank you enough. I don’t even know you, but deep down, I just have an overwhelming sense of appreciation and gratitude.
I also wanted you to know that God has used you and your wife in a HUGE way during this season of our journey. I am so grateful for you both…you have no idea!! :)

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