Last month, I finally got to read The Fantasy Fallacy by Shannon Ethridge. It had been in my kindle for a while just itching to be read. The Fantasy Fallacy addresses a timeless question I think, but made even more timely in our particular age, especially right on the heels of the 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon. Our culture seems to be accelerating lately in it’s process of bringing sexual immorality into the forefront. Part of this shift is to make acceptable erotic literature to the masses.
One of the questions this shift forces us, as Christians, to focus on is what constitutes sexual immorality, where is the line? This book focuses on the question “What do we do with fantasy?” Is it evil? Is it OK? Is it from the devil, or part of God’s design for us? Continue reading
It’s a fairly common belief: the idea that kids ruin your sex life. We see it in movies, in TV shows. It’s so pervasive that it’s become almost accepted as truth. In fact, there are couples who decide not to have kids, because of this belief. Is it true? Does it have to be this way? If you have kids, are you doomed to have a lower frequency of the act that brought those same kids into the world? Continue reading
For most of our marriage, oral sex has been very one sided. For the first years, it was solely me performing oral sex on my wife, and never the other way around. It took her years to get accustomed to the idea, actually it’s a fairly recent development. All of a sudden, she has realized…it’s not that bad…actually…it’s kind of a turn on to perform oral sex. But I always knew that she wasn’t comfortable with the idea of me ejaculating in her mouth or swallowing. She tried it twice and was…well…repulsed I think would be the appropriate word. The problem for me was that if felt absolutely amazing. At the moment of orgasm, men tend to get very sensitive. If one should happen to run their tongue across during that moment…well, orgasmic just isn’t a strong enough word…since you’re already having one. Continue reading