I launched a new blog last week. Don’t worry, you didn’t miss it, I didn’t really announce it. Of course, this blog will have a different focus than Sex Within Marriage.
I’ve called it Seeking God’s Kingdom and there I’m going to focus heavily on theology. I’ve found that occasionally our discussions here dip into some pretty deep theology, topics that really aren’t focused on sexuality or marriage. While I have no problem discussing those topics, I’m also aware that it isn’t the focus of this blog, and some of my readers my not be that interested in deep theological discussions. So, I’ve created a space where I can explore some of these deeper topics, and give people a little bit more room to run with their particular doctrine or theology. Continue reading
I wish this was a joke, but I received this question this week in from our Have A Question page:
Are threesomes in marriage a sin
I’ll be honest, I contemplated not answering it. I really thought the answer was that obvious. Then I did some searching, and found multiple sites with supposedly Christian sex advice saying that threesomes were okay. So, I figured I should write about it, since it seems people are getting a lot of bad advice out there.
I’ve been getting a lot of requests for information on bondage play. Sadly, this is probably in partially due to the whole 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon, but there are some couples who are genuinely interested, without that influence.
So, I thought I would write a (very) quick post as a sort of simple way for spouses to start off with bondage. Sort of bondage without bondage, if you will.
I received a question this week in my inbox. Actually, they asked a few questions over multiple emails. I answered the ones I could and deferred this one for a post, because I felt it was fairly involved and I hadn’t yet tackled it on the blog in any great depth. Here’s an excerpt of their emails (with their permission):
Why is it that the men of the old testament including the heroes of the Christian faith -Abraham, Jacob, Gideon, David, Solomon etc etc all could have multiple wives, concubines, sex slaves of the beautiful captives (Deuteronomy) and with some of these guys they with their wives permission could have sex with others. (Abraham and Jacob.) God even tells David he would have given him more wives if he asked … It is so confusing to us this big change in the bible. Is not Jesus the same yesterday today and forever?
I received this question from our Have A Question page a few days ago:
My husband used to be addicted to watching pornography, for over a decade. It was a struggle in our marriage for a long time, but he has successfully overcome the addiction. He has been porn-free for over a year. I thought all our problems would be solved once he achieved this. Unfortunately, new problems have arisen. My husband is rarely interested in having sex, even though I am interested in it several times per week, if not daily. And when we try to have sex, often times he cannot get–or stay–erect. He will often go soft while still inside me. This is devastating to me, to say the least. Is this just a lasting side-effect of his former addiction? Am I being naive in trusting that he has completely abstained from watching porn? Or is there more going on? FYI my husband is 35 years old and has had his testosterone levels checked (they were slightly low but not abnormally, according to his doctor). Please help me.
I think one of the biggest questions women have revolve around the question of beauty. There seems to be this innate need to be found beautiful, to know that you are captivating. Open up Google and type “Does my husband”, and the first suggestion is “… find me attractive?” That’s a topic I’ve written about before, we even did a survey on it.
But, I’m going to touch on it again, because I was reminded of this question a few times this week. One of them was in a comment from a reader who asked this:
I’m not sure if this topic has been covered, but a lot of women are very shy when it comes to sex and the naked body. So maybe a post to help the husband make the wives more comfortable and come out her shell.
Now, I don’t think it’s the husband’s job to make their wife come of her shell, but I was curious how much it did affect their sex life. So, I took another look at the results of our latest survey and found a couple of stats that you may find interesting. Continue reading