A few weeks ago, I wrote a post on non-procreational sex, and still plan to write one on birth control, but I had a reader asking about permanent birth control, so, I thought I’d tackle this first with a survey. He (who shall remain nameless, because I didn’t ask if I could use his name) asked:
We have four kids and decided that was enough.What do you think of a vasectomy? What do other men say that had it done?
A few weeks ago, we wrote about mutual masturbation and tacked on a survey at the end. I had meant to write a more substantial post today on another topic, but to be honest, my brain is exhausted, and I just can’t wrap my head around something too deep today and do it justice, so I’m going to sort of phone it in and just present the results of the survey. Maybe I’ll do another bonus post on a quick topic again later in the week to make up for it, no promises. As is the custom, my wife’s comments will be in purple. Continue reading
I received this question on non-procreative sex through our “Have a Question?” page:
Hello, I’m so happy to have found your site but I am confused on a very fundamental level. I understand that for my partner and I to have non-procreational sex outside of marriage is a sin. My strict Catholic upbringing taught me that this remains a sin within marriage, and that sex should only be engaged in with the intention of procreation. Is this correct or have I been misinformed? Can married Christians enjoy non-procreational sex together? And if so, what about contraception? What is allowed and what is not? I hope you can help to explain this to me! I love my partner with all my heart and wish to marry her in the very near future, I’m just confused about this whole subject! Thank you very much for your guidance and God Bless.
I usually only post once a week, but this is a bonus post for those potentially walking into a Valentine’s Disaster, as I’m going to call it. I know, I know, I’m a marriage blogger, and I’m supposed to be writing a post about what to do for valentine’s day, or how wonderful it is, or how to show your spouse you appreciate them on this special day. But, in my opinion, this holiday is a disaster. There is so much more harm being done by it than good, and I think it promotes a lot more negative feelings than positive ones. Of course, this is part of a much larger discussion on expectations, but given the day, I thought I’d start here. Continue reading
I’ve written about solo masturbation fairly extensively in previous posts, but I haven’t touched on the subject of shared, or mutual masturbation yet. Two weeks ago, in my Going to Bed Naked Survey Results post, Chris Tian asked if I would write about this topic, because it’s been a point of contention between her and her husband. So, in the hopes that it helps some couples, here are my thoughts on mutual masturbation within marriage. As we’ve been doing, my wife’s comments will be in purple. Continue reading
A couple of days ago, I was asked this question through our anonymous Have A Question? page. This couple was considering adding alcohol to their bedroom activities, and asked what the pros and cons might be. Now, I should disclose and say that I’m one of those crazy fundamentalist Christians who think alcohol has no place in the Christian lifestyle, so my response is going to be a bit biased. I didn’t grow up with that belief, but I came to it through studying the Bible. I understand that the bulk of Christianity doesn’t agree. That said, I tried to look for pros, but all I could find were cons, and some pros that, at first, might look like a pro, but turn out to be a con. So, here we go. These are my findings and opinions on the matter. My wife’s comments are in purple. Continue reading