Tag Archives: Wife

Does my husband still find me attractive?

Yesterday morning (4 am my time), I received an anonymous question from a new reader.  She’s had a, shall we say, colourful life, but now has settled down, has become a Christian, has a husband and is growing in Christ.  But, while we are all

My Wife Wants Me To Tie Her Up?!

I’ve seen this question in a few places where all of a sudden a wife lets out that she wants her husband to tie her up.  Note: I’ve been seeing these WAY before 50 Shades of Grey was even a concept.  I am not writing about

Why Don’t I Give My Wife More Massages?

The other day, I had a thought: Why don’t I give my wife more massages?  Seriously.  This isn’t a rhetorical question.  I mean, let’s think about it.  In my marriage (and I’m guessing many more), massages: Help her relax Help her transition from “mother” or

How do I get my spouse to do [blank]?

This must be the most frequent question I get.  Readers always want to know “how do I get my spouse to do …”, whatever.  It’s not always phrased this bluntly, there are a myriad of subtle variations (like this comment on my last post), but at

How Sex Impacts the Rest of My Life

We had a pretty rough Christmas break in 2012.  December started with everyone in the family getting colds, which, with 4 kids is a fairly regular event, nothing new.  We all got over it, except my wife.  Hers persisted for weeks.  She went to the

What Is Your Goal?

I often read, in forums and comments, complaints from one spouse or another who isn’t getting what they want out of sex.  Sometimes it has to do with a very simple problem of the spouses not knowing each others goals in a sexual encounter (or

Is There A Good Way To Tell Your Husband “No Sex Tonight”?

OK men, I’m going to address you a bit further down, but this part is for the ladies: Short answer: No.  I don’t mean “tell him “NO””.  I mean, there is no good way to tell your husband “No Sex Tonight”.  Here’s why: No matter

What If Your Spouse Doesn’t Think Watching Arousing Scenes Is A Problem?

I received this question in the comments on the post What Do I Do If I Get Turned On By Someone/Something Other Than My Spouse? If you knew your spouse was deliberately looking at stuff to get aroused, but goes to you for sex, would you refuse

Do You Believe Couples Go Through Sexual Seasons In Their Relationship?

This is the seventh post in the 1/2 Marathon being orchestrated by the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association.  I have a bunch of questions left from the A Males Perspective teleconference I spoke at last week.  As such, I’ll be using this marathon to answer some of the questions I received.

Do Men Want Their Women To Take The Lead More When It Comes To Sex?

This is the fifth post in the 1/2 Marathon being orchestrated by the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association.  I have a bunch of questions left from the A Males Perspective teleconference I spoke at last week.  As such, I’ll be using this marathon to answer some of the questions I received.

How Would Most Men Describe A Romantic Evening?

How would most men describe a romantic evening?

If you ask me to describe a romantic evening, or plan a romantic weekend, or something similar, my answer will be exactly what I think my wife would think would be romantic. I don’t think I really grasp the concept of romance, and based on comments from lots of wives on message boards, blogs, etc, I don’t think I’m alone.