- I have a fascination with sexuality, particularly in marriage. The hormones and neuro-chemicals involved, physiological and psychological responses, how it impacts marriage and the rest of life. Why we do the things we do, why we don’t do the things we don’t. Why are there stigmas about certain activities, why aren’t there about others? So many questions, and only a few places that are open to discussing them.
- Sometimes I’m processing something I want to write here, but I need some more thought to flesh it out. My wife offers many perspectives I cannot: a wife’s perspective, a woman’s perspective, a low-drive perspective, a wise perspective, and so on.
- Sex has been an issue in our marriage, and we’re still working on it. While it’s not perfect, it is pretty good, and we’ve come a long way, but there’s always more improvement to be had.
The other night, we were talking, and this question came up: “Where is the line between being submissive and being a doormat?” If the high-drive spouse desires sex, and the low-drive doesn’t, should there be sex? I’ve answered this question before, indirectly, but I think it needs to be framed a bit. What about the next night? And the next? And the next? How many days in a row constitutes submission/self-less love, and where is point where it becomes being a sex-slave, a doormat, just an object to have sex with?
This topic is a bit on the fringes of sex within marriage, but it’s one that gets brought up a lot, particularly in the discussions about spouses that refuse to have sex, or has had an affair, or is addicted to porn. Is there a point where you can say “This marriage isn’t performing the way it should, it’s time to end it?” Continue reading
Alright, my last post (My Wife Wants Me To Tie Her Up?!) raised a lot of questions, so I’m going to address them in this post. This is going to be much more of an FAQ/How-To whereas Part 1 was more of a theological/philosophical discussion. If you haven’t read it yet, I suggest finishing it first to frame this post correctly. Go on, I’ll wait.
Alright, now I’m going to assume you’ve read it, so, let’s move on.
Warning: I’m going to link to amazon products, but they aren’t careful about models. The products I’ll link to won’t have models, but I can’t guarantee there won’t be any on the page in related products, so, you’ll have to police yourself in that regard. It may not be suitable for work.
I’m going to be writing this from the perspective of the husband as the dominant (giving) and the wife as the submissive (receiving). So, without further ado, on to the questions. Continue reading
I’ve seen this question in a few places where all of a sudden a wife lets out that she wants her husband to tie her up. Note: I’ve been seeing these WAY before 50 shades of grey was even a concept. I am not writing about that book! There are a billion reasons why you shouldn’t read it. But what about these genuine wives who have a real desire, not brought about by some piece of fiction, to try this? I’ve been that husband who sat there and thought, “Is this OK“, “What do I do?“, “How do I start?”