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Beginner_Bondage_QuestionsAlright, my last post (My Wife Wants Me To Tie Her Up?!) raised a lot of questions, so I’m going to address them in this post.  This is going to be much more of an FAQ/How-To whereas Part 1 was more of a theological/philosophical discussion.  If you haven’t read it yet, I suggest finishing it first to frame this post correctly.  Go on, I’ll wait.

Alright, now I’m going to assume you’ve read it, so, let’s move on.

Warning: I’m going to link to amazon products, but they aren’t careful about models.  The products I’ll link to won’t have models, but I can’t guarantee there won’t be any on the page in related products, so, you’ll have to police yourself in that regard.  It may not be suitable for work.

I’m going to be writing this from the perspective of the husband as the dominant (giving) and the wife as the submissive  (receiving).  So, without further ado, on to the questions. Continue reading

This is the ninth post in the 1/2 Marathon being orchestrated by the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association.  I have a bunch of questions left from the A Males Perspective teleconference I spoke at last week.  As such, I’ll be using this marathon to answer some of the questions I received.  Please note, these are my perspective.  I cannot vouch for all males and when I’m giving my perspective on women, I certainly cannot vouch for all women.  Also, all references to gender traits are based on the average population, there are exceptions of course.  Please do not be offended by these if you are not “neuro-typical” for your gender.  So, on to the question:

I would like for my husband to be more creative when it comes to initiating sex and not just jumping into it. What should I do?

Alright, first things first.  Go back and read my post called
Does It Hurt A Man’s Feelings When We Give Instructions To Him In The Bedroom On What We Like And Dislike As A Women In Bed?  I know, it’s a long title, but the post is pretty short.  I’ll wait.

Done?  Good, because this post won’t work unless you understand and apply that post.

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This is the sixth post in the 1/2 Marathon being orchestrated by the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association.  I have a bunch of questions left from the A Males Perspective teleconference I spoke at last week.  As such, I’ll be using this marathon to answer some of the questions I received.  Please note, these are my perspective.  I cannot vouch for all males and when I’m giving my perspective on women, I certainly cannot vouch for all women.  Also, all references to gender traits are based on the average population, there are exceptions of course.  Please do not be offended by these if you are not “neuro-typical” for your gender.  So, on to the question:
Does it hurt a man’s feelings when we give instructions to him in the bedroom on what we like and dislike as a women in bed?

I hate this answer: it depends.  But it does, and it depends on mainly two factors, and to illustrate, I’m going to use a decision matrix, because, well, it’s rare that I get to use them. Continue reading

OK, I know, I know, every blog about marriage, relationships, etc has at least one article with that title.  They usual have a large list of techniques, activities.  Maybe they suggest a blindfold (gasp).  But that’s the easy stuff.  I think you guys are ready for the really intense tip.  There’s only one.  But it’s a game changer.

In fact, it’s so big, I needed a Venn diagram.
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A couple of posts ago, I wrote about my wife and I placing sexual bets on a card game, and we had an awesome time.  Not only was the sex fun, but it brought a new element of fun to the card game as well.  So, we started thinking about what else we could improve using this same method.

So, we’re going to try to apply it to personal development.  This time around, specifically weight loss.  We both have some extra pounds we want to lose, so we’ve set up a game for ourselves.  We’re going to track loss week to week.  From Monday to Monday, we’re going to weigh ourselves and the spouse who losses the most gets to pick a sexual favor to be performed by the other spouse.

Some qualifiers:

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So, its fathers day.  Do you have a gift yet?  I have good news for you.  You don’t need to buy one.  Here’s what most husbands want for fathers day:

The act that made them a father in the first place given, not out of obligation to fulfill a requirement of the date, but out of genuine enthusiasm, respect, and love.  We want you to show initiative in the bedroom, we want you to be willing, we want you to be the inner slut sexually adventurous woman (just for us) that we know (or at least we hope) lies buried under all those layers of mom, church school teacher, nursery volunteer, food committee leader, etc, etc, etc.. Continue reading

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