This concept presents itself in two ways generally:
- One spouse has a checklist of things that must occur before sex. See this comment.
- Life is just too busy and there doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day.
The answer to both is pretty much the same, though the push-back might vary. The solution really is quite simple, though the implementation will probably take some resolve.
Ready for it?
Here we go. Continue reading
I wrote a survey this weekend to help out with a post and answer a question from a reader: Was their spouse attracted to them? So many people commented, both in the survey, on Facebook, message boards, in emails, comments, etc., that they wanted to see the results, that I just have to share them. At the time of this post, the sample set was 183 respondents. Continue reading
Yesterday morning (4 am my time), I received an anonymous question from a new reader. She’s had a, shall we say, colourful life, but now has settled down, has become a Christian, has a husband and is growing in Christ. But, while we are all forgiven, forgiveness does not always equate to a blank slate. While it does in God’s eyes, the fact is, we still bear the consequences of our actions, grace or no grace. These aren’t punishments from God, they are just us getting through life following our own will, or sometimes being subject to the will of others.
And so, this dear sister in Christ comes to me with a question that I’m sure is weighing on many of our sisters in the christian community. In fact, I’m almost positive this is a gender wide question for wives regardless of faith:
Does my husband still find me attractive? Continue reading
I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but we’ve been getting more and more comments from women say that they want sex more than their husbands, completely shattering the stereotype that men always want more sex. There are blogs from women in these types of marriages, guest posts, threads on message boards, everywhere you see wives saying “I want my husband to want me!”, but still the popular myth is maintained: that men need/want sex more than women. And anywhere a woman stands up and says “I like sex” or “I want sex every day” or “I want sex more than my husband”, there is someone standing up calling “unicorn” (mythical creature). But anyone who runs a blog dealing with marriage or sex, and I’d guess anyone in that area of marriage counselling as well, has to know that these are not unicorns, and there aren’t more of them every day, they’re just becoming more vocal. Continue reading
I was looking at the stats for the blog today, and it reminded me of a question I had last night: I wonder how many people think they are the only ones in marriage having problems with sex, or who think that maybe sex in marriage is supposed to be dull/bad/painful and/or infrequent. It popped into my head because of something I wrote a few days ago. I didn’t post it here, because it was for a project being hosted by My Beloved Is Mine!. But, when I was reading their post (and incidentally, some of my own words back to myself), it sparked the question. Continue reading
Alright, my last post (My Wife Wants Me To Tie Her Up?!) raised a lot of questions, so I’m going to address them in this post. This is going to be much more of an FAQ/How-To whereas Part 1 was more of a theological/philosophical discussion. If you haven’t read it yet, I suggest finishing it first to frame this post correctly. Go on, I’ll wait.
Alright, now I’m going to assume you’ve read it, so, let’s move on.
Warning: I’m going to link to amazon products, but they aren’t careful about models. The products I’ll link to won’t have models, but I can’t guarantee there won’t be any on the page in related products, so, you’ll have to police yourself in that regard. It may not be suitable for work.
I’m going to be writing this from the perspective of the husband as the dominant (giving) and the wife as the submissive (receiving). So, without further ado, on to the questions. Continue reading