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Mutual Masturbation Survey ResultsA few weeks ago, we wrote about mutual masturbation and tacked on a survey at the end.  I had meant to write a more substantial post today on another topic, but to be honest, my brain is exhausted, and I just can’t wrap my head around something too deep today and do it justice, so I’m going to sort of phone it in and just present the results of the survey.  Maybe I’ll do another bonus post on a quick topic again later in the week to make up for it, no promises.  As is the custom, my wife’s comments will be in purple. Continue reading

Is Masturbation A Sin

Original photo by Flickr user “sunshinecity”

This has been an ongoing discussion/disagreement between Paul Byerly and I for just over a year now.  I have a great respect for Paul, and enjoy our game of theological tennis, even if we don’t see eye to eye on a few topics.  It all started with a post I wrote called Why Do Married Men Masturbate?  And then continues to creep up now and again as the topic is addressed, either directly or indirectly.  We got into the topic again on last week’s post, and I have a sneaky suspicion that his post today was directed at me.  That’s OK.  I like being challenged.  I believe an unquestioned theology is a worthless theology. Continue reading

I received a comment today on the Why Do Married Men Masturbate post, and after writing two responses (a computer crash and a browser crash), the third one finally finished up way to long for a comment, so I thought I’d just turn it into a post because others might be in the same situation.  The comment is below and my response further down.  Please keep in mind, I’m just a lay-person who has been the male in a similar situation, that is the only expertise I can claim.  You know your situation better than I, I just hope I can lend some perspective to it. Continue reading

This is the tenth post in the 1/2 Marathon being orchestrated by the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association.    This time I’m switching it up a bit.  An issue came up during the discussion on the post Why Do Married Men Masturbate? that I want to address today. Please note, this is my perspective.  I cannot vouch for all males and when I’m giving my perspective on women, I certainly cannot vouch for all women.  Also, all references to gender traits are based on the average population, there are exceptions of course.  Please do not be offended by these if you are not “neuro-typical” for your gender.  So, on to the question:

What is your opinion of solo masturbation due to separation?

This question came from the comments section and I delayed responding because my initial answer I felt was a bit harsh.  I thought I’d take the time to pray and think and read and see if my opinion mellowed.   It didn’t.  So, here it is, no holds barred.

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Why do husbands masturbate? This is the eighth post in the 1/2 Marathon being orchestrated by the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association.  I have a bunch of questions left from the A Males Perspective teleconference I spoke at last week.  As such, I’ll be using this marathon to answer some of the questions I received.  Please note, these are my perspective.  I cannot vouch for all males and when I’m giving my perspective on women, I certainly cannot vouch for all women.  Also, all references to gender traits are based on the average population, there are exceptions of course.  Please do not be offended by these if you are not “neuro-typical” for your gender.  So, on to the question:

Why do married men masturbate?

I’m expecting to lose some people on this one, but I’m going to write it anyways, because the question was posed, and I think it’s important.  If you disagree with me, please discuss it instead of just shutting it out because it’s uncomfortable to talk about.   Continue reading