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Why Don’t I Give My Wife More Massages?

The other day, I had a thought: Why don’t I give my wife more massages?  Seriously.  This isn’t a rhetorical question.  I mean, let’s think about it.  In my marriage (and I’m guessing many more), massages: Help her relax Help her transition from “mother” or

How Sex Impacts the Rest of My Life

We had a pretty rough Christmas break in 2012.  December started with everyone in the family getting colds, which, with 4 kids is a fairly regular event, nothing new.  We all got over it, except my wife.  Hers persisted for weeks.  She went to the

What Is Your Goal?

I often read, in forums and comments, complaints from one spouse or another who isn’t getting what they want out of sex.  Sometimes it has to do with a very simple problem of the spouses not knowing each others goals in a sexual encounter (or

Book Review: Grandma’s Sex Handbook

I was really looking forward to reading this book.  The concept is amazing. This Christian family has a tradition, for 8 generations (at least, might be more), the grandmothers have sat their granddaughters down during their engagements and unloaded everything they know about sex to

What is Christian Porn?

I do a lot of research about sexuality and theology, those are the two biggest areas of research in my life.  It’s no surprise, then, that I eventually started a blog exploring the intersection of these two interests.  But my research is not limited to

What Do I Do If I Get Turned On By Someone/Something Other Than My Spouse?

This is the twelfth post in the 1/2 Marathon being orchestrated by the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association.  There has been a lot of discussion on some of my posts this week (especially Why Do Married Men Masturbate).  I’m going to answer one of the questions I received on that

How Do I Get My Husband To Be More Creative When Initiating Sex?

This is the ninth post in the 1/2 Marathon being orchestrated by the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association.  I have a bunch of questions left from the A Males Perspective teleconference I spoke at last week.  As such, I’ll be using this marathon to answer some of the questions I received.

Why Do You Think Men Think About Sex More Than Women?

This is the second post in the 1/2 Marathon being orchestrated by the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association.  I have a bunch of questions left from the A Males Perspective teleconference I spoke at last week.  As such, I’ll be using this marathon to answer some of the questions I received.

Why Do You Think Women Need More Foreplay Than Men?

I should start by saying, I don’t fit the male stereotype. I love foreplay. I like kissing, I like hugging, I like feeling my wife. I also recognize that I need foreplay in order to perform sexually better. On the other side, my wife also does not fit the female stereotype. She gets annoyed with foreplay, she wants to “get on with it”, though she does recognize that she also needs foreplay in order to perform sexually better. We do fit the male/female stereo typical sex drives though, so, here’s my opinion on the matter:

All You Want Is Sex

One of our largest topics for fighting conflict (in the past) is that I (from her perspective) “want sex all the time”.  I have pretty hard time denying that allegation, because, well, it’s true. I see this theme a lot in my readings on message