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How does porn use harm a marriage?

In 2012, I wrote a post called What Is Christian Porn? because it was a phrase I was seeing pop up here and there and I thought it was a ridiculous oxymoron.  Since then, people looking for “Christian Porn” accounts for 2% of my total traffic!

You are not alone

I was looking at the stats for the blog today, and it reminded me of a question I had last night:  I wonder how many people think they are the only ones in marriage having problems with sex, or who think that maybe sex in

Where is the line between biblical submission and being a doormat?

My wife and I talk about sex a fair bit.  Why?  Well, probably a few reasons: I have a fascination with sexuality, particularly in marriage.  The hormones and neuro-chemicals involved, physiological and psychological responses, how it impacts marriage and the rest of life.  Why we do the things we

My Wife Wants Me To Tie Her Up?!

I’ve seen this question in a few places where all of a sudden a wife lets out that she wants her husband to tie her up.  Note: I’ve been seeing these WAY before 50 Shades of Grey was even a concept.  I am not writing about

How do I get my spouse to do [blank]?

This must be the most frequent question I get.  Readers always want to know “how do I get my spouse to do …”, whatever.  It’s not always phrased this bluntly, there are a myriad of subtle variations (like this comment on my last post), but at

What does household leadership mean for the husband?

The Christian marriage blog-o-sphere is buzzing the last few months about submission, household leadership and respect within the family, and it generally revolves around these verses: Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife

How Sex Impacts the Rest of My Life

We had a pretty rough Christmas break in 2012.  December started with everyone in the family getting colds, which, with 4 kids is a fairly regular event, nothing new.  We all got over it, except my wife.  Hers persisted for weeks.  She went to the

What Happened To Sex When Christianity Split From Judaism?

I tend to have interests that tend to borderline on are obsessions for short periods of time, sometimes a few weeks, sometimes a quarter, sometimes 6 months.  But the two main interests of my life are Theology and Sexuality.  Lately, I’ve been delving into Hebrew, I

Book Review: Eden Derailed

Rena over at InsertGraceHere.com gave me this book suggestion quite a while ago (at least 6 months) and I finally got around to reading it at the end of the summer, and just now am getting around to writing about it. This book is about the theology

What is Christian Porn?

I do a lot of research about sexuality and theology, those are the two biggest areas of research in my life.  It’s no surprise, then, that I eventually started a blog exploring the intersection of these two interests.  But my research is not limited to

What If Your Spouse Doesn’t Think Watching Arousing Scenes Is A Problem?

I received this question in the comments on the post What Do I Do If I Get Turned On By Someone/Something Other Than My Spouse? If you knew your spouse was deliberately looking at stuff to get aroused, but goes to you for sex, would you refuse