It’s a fairly common belief: the idea that kids ruin your sex life. We see it in movies, in TV shows. It’s so pervasive that it’s become almost accepted as truth. In fact, there are couples who decide not to have kids, because of this belief. Is it true? Does it have to be this way? If you have kids, are you doomed to have a lower frequency of the act that brought those same kids into the world? Continue reading
OK, this is largely a rant, so hang on.
We’re currently enjoying our fourth newborn. All our children have been breastfed, and this one is no different. Let me start by saying that I 100% agree with breastfeeding children. I think it’s the healthiest thing for them and I would never suggest anything else except in extreme cases. And nothing that follows changes that belief one iota.
That said, here’s what I hate about it (in no particular order):
I don’t get to play with them anymore
My wife’s breasts used to be mine. They were for me alone. It was my right to kiss them, lick them, suck them, bite them, tweak them, rub them, hold them, whatever. So long as it gave my wife pleasure, they were mine to enjoy. Sometimes even if it did nothing for her, they were still mine to enjoy.
The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.
1 Corinthians 7:4
Now I never get to touch them. Continue reading