Two posts ago, I wrote about dealing with a non-neural-typical spouse. If you haven’t read it, I highly suggest going back and doing so to frame this post. It also has a lot of content I’m going to leverage in this one. In fact, I’m going to go back and read it now to make sure I know what I already wrote. It’s OK, this post will still be here after we’ve read the other, well, it will be for you, I haven’t written it yet, so I have a largely empty page. After you’re done, we can get back to talking about Asperger’s Syndrome and marriage specifically.
So, as I said, I have Asperger’s Syndrome, but I should point out, I am, with all due humility, extremely high functioning. Almost no one in my life knows, including my parents. So, if you know someone with Asperger’s Syndrome or Autism, they likely will not match me. I have a much higher ability to self-observe about how my mind functions and am not quite as trapped inside my mind as others. That said, I will do my best to communicate the typical Asperger’s traits, so be aware, not everything I write will be about me. Sorry, this may get confusing and may make you believe things about me which are not true. I will attempt to mitigate that as best as I can. In many cases and ways, these behaviors are going to seem like ultra-stereotypical male, which, I think, may be part of the reason people like reading this blog. By being an ultra-stereotypical male in some ways and attempting to mitigate weaknesses in order to survive in a neural-typical world, I may have insights that help wives understand their husbands and husbands learn to coexist better. That’s my theory anyways.
So, this underdevelopment of the pre-frontal cortex can cause some obvious behaviors, and some not-so-obvious ones. I was going to follow the same pattern as my post on ADHD, but I’m finding the subject matter doesn’t lend itself that way. So we’ll see if I can get the same effect of showing weaknesses and strengths and tips for mitigating and leveraging them respectively while using a different form. Continue reading