Uncovering Intimacy

Being clean for sex

I’ve seen a bunch of comments lately on the topic of being clean for sex. Here’s a few I’d noticed just in the last couple of days: i would like to hear about shower / bath before sex. is it common? is it done in

How to deal with an unrepentant spouse

I received this question about a week ago in the comments of our survey on period sex (which is still open for entries by the way): How do I get over the hurt of my husband cheating on me and constantly on chat sites and

Growth takes risk

Sometimes you need to be willing to risk what you have in order to get something better. I’m not talking about leaving your spouse on the hopes of a better one, though that’s the message the world tries to peddle. Rather, I’m talking about getting

Is it wrong to push my spouse to be more creative in bed?

About a week a go I got this question from our anonymous Have A Question page: Am I wrong in pushing my wife to be more creative in our physical relationship? My wife was raised VERY conservative and believes that’s my department. She’s open to

Dealing with a Bait and Switch

I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page about a month ago: My wife and I have had a troubled sex life for years. Before we were married it was incredible and she fulfilled every desire I had(yes we know it was

Do orgasm times change as you get older?

I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page about a week ago: Do all women take a long time to have an orgasm? I feel like I am weird or something because it doesn’t take much time for me to have to

Should I be upset if my spouse falls asleep during sex?

So, I got this question yesterday from our anonymous Have A Question page: Last night my husband decided to finish inside me and since I was no where near orgasm at the time, we thought I should be finished with toys. Anyway, my orgasm wasn’t

Your marriage is your primary relationship

Is your marriage your primary relationship in life? I mean, besides God. I know, that sounds a bit glib, as if I’m tacking God on as an after thought, but I’m not. I just want to focus on human relationships (and yes, I believe Jesus

Delayed Ejaculation

I had intended to write this post last year some time, after our orgasm difficulties survey. But, I guess I got sidetracked with a bunch of other topics, and it was forgotten until yesterday’s post. It’s a bit ironic that the post on delayed ejaculation

You cannot make a refuser generous

I get a lot of husbands and wives asking me how to change their spouse. How do you make them go from a refuser to a generous spouse? After all, I managed it, so what’s the trick? The truth is, I didn’t manage it. There

Christians and Erectile Dysfunction Medication

Here’s a question I received from our anonymous Have a Question page about dealing with erectile dysfunction: Hey Jay! Have you ever dealt with the Christian’s response to medications that are designed to help men with E.D.? I’m into my 60’s now and the equipment