Last week we wrote a post about going to bed naked, how it could improve your frequency of sex. I’ll be honest, it was a hypothesis. I had only a data-set of one marriage to go on (my own). So, I thought I’d add a survey to the end of the post to see if my hypothesis was true, or, if it was false, was it true only under certain conditions. So, here are the results of our “Going to bed naked” survey. And, since everyone seemed to enjoy her input, my lovely wife will be commenting again where she wishes in purpleto give us an additional perspective. Continue reading
One thing my wife started doing when we were trying to improve our sex life was to start to go to bed naked. Now, she doesn’t actually like to sleep naked, she gets weird dreams, or is too cold, but between taking her clothes that she wore during the day off and putting on pajamas, she crawls into bed naked and stays that way until we’ve prayed and are ready to go to sleep. Of course, this assumes that you are already going to bed at the same time.
This is a question that confuses some husbands, and some wives as well, including those who like their hair pulled. They wonder why they like it. They didn’t like it growing up when their siblings pulled their hair, and in any other circumstance it’s not pleasurable, so why does it seem like such a turn on during sex? In fact, a survey conducted by Men’s Health listed hair pulling as the third most desired aggressive move in bed by women. So, what’s going on?
Well, another year has passed. Sex Within Marriage will be 2 years old in a couple weeks time and it’s been an amazing experience. I’ve learned a lot about blogging, Social Media, and search engine optimization in an effort to give more people access to a community of believers where they can have a safe place to discuss sex within their marriage. We also went through a redesign of the blog and social media pages, which I got a lot of positive comments on.
Moving forward we have a few plans for this year. Continue reading
The other day on our way home from a Christmas party we were talking and Jay was telling me he doesn’t know what to say or how to answer people’s comments and emails when they say that they are being refused and are hurting. This got me thinking back to old days and how I realized what my sin was and what it had done to our marriage and how I turned from it. I used to say, “no” to Jay so very often but have since turned from my ways and now gladly say, “yes hunny!” and I’ll even initiate on a regular basis. Continue reading
In Christianity, we spend a lot of time talking about when is the right time to talk about sex with your kids or sexual boundaries with a boyfriend/girlfriend, but usually the question “When is the best time to talk about sex with your spouse?” is not answered. Generally, as Christians and/or the church, we do a lot better at talking about not having sex than we do about talking about sex in a positive light. I think often it’s just assumed that if your married, then sex is no longer an issue, it’s just a given, so we don’t need to talk about it anymore. Continue reading