Today I received this question in my email:
Should Christians have sex during Lent?
Since it’s lent right now, I thought it would be appropriate to answer in a blog post, as I’m sure some others are wondering the same thing. Likewise, there are probably a bunch of Christians who don’t know what lent is or why anyone would give sex up for it. So, I’ll address it, assuming you’ve never heard of Lent.
Many people (bloggers, authors, readers) have been telling me for a while that I should write a book, and this year I mentioned that one of my goals was to do just that: write a full length book about marriage in general, not just about sex.
Well, I haven’t completed that goal yet, but I took my first step (or perhaps two). This week, I published two Kindle books to Amazon titled “Sex Within Marriage – Help for Christian Wives” and “Sex Within Marriage – Help for Christian Husbands“. Continue reading
Last week we did our analysis of our Orgasm Difficulties Survey and I had promised a post on each of the categories of difficulty. So, today we’re going to tackle Premature Ejaculation, also known as early ejaculation, rapid ejaculation, rapid climax, premature climax and ejaculation praecox.
Premature ejaculation has been defined as “ejaculation which always or nearly always occurs prior to or within about one minute” of starting intercourse, though the international standard lists 15 seconds. I’ve seen other definitions place the cutoff at 2 minutes. In short, there is no black and white “this is, and this isn’t” for premature ejaculation. Continue reading
This question came through on a survey comment, and I’m finally getting around to addressing it.
I am a heterosexual married woman, and never been with anyone besides my husband. However, the sight of bare female breasts turns me on. I don’t seek it out through porn, but if I happen to watch a movie. Do other Christian women experience this? My husband is well aware of this, and he is not worried. Just wondered if other women experience this.
Luckily, there is actually a fair bit of research in the field of human sexuality to explain this, so I don’t have to guess.
This question again came from a coaching client, and I thought it was so appropriate in light of the whole 50 Shades of Grey discussion going on in the marriage field these days, that I would write a post with my response.
So, is there a right way? Is all fantasy wrong? Is role playing okay for Christian marriages?
I see a trend in marriages these days. A lot of people complaining, lamenting, asking, wondering, why their spouses don’t provide for their needs in their marriage. Sometimes they’re simple things, like hugs, kisses, or just time together alone. Sometimes they’re bigger things like security, commitment, sex, or orgasms. I’ve noticed a pattern in a lot of them though (not all, but enough to write a post about). When I ask “what does your spouse say when you ask?” the answer is often “… well … I haven’t asked, exactly.”
So, today one of my coaching clients (she gave permission to quote her), when talking about this said:
So, Coach….let ‘er rip! Show me a better way.
But, I think a lot of marriages could be helped by this one, so you all get to benefit from her question.