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Relief is not the same as enjoyment

I think sometimes we confuse relief with enjoyment, especially when it comes to sex.  I think this gets confused by both high-drive and low-drive spouses, and I don’t think we tend to reflect on that much.  So, I thought I’d take a second to try

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An update on our situation

So, I sat down to write a post this morning on my morning commute, as it my habit, and just couldn’t get into anything.  The truth is, I’m pre-occupied.  So, I thought I’d write a little post just to share what’s going on in our


Week 52: 7 Days of Sex Challenge

Well, here we are with the final challenge for our year of marriage challenges.  To finish it off, my last challenge is to have sex seven days in a row! So, why would you want to do this?

A Year of Marriage Challenges - Week 51 - Have sex somewhere new

Week 51 – Have sex somewhere new

W ow, two weeks left in our year of marriage challenges!  If you’re just joining us, don’t worry, we’ll be releasing them all as a resource later on.  During the year I’ve challenged you to have sex: In the bathroom In the kitchen In the

Analingus, Rimming, Oral-Anal Sex

Analingus / rimming / oral-anal sex

This is another topic I’ve been avoiding for a while. I mean, people get upset enough when I mention anal sex. But to talk about kissing or licking the anus … well, I’m bracing myself for the comments.  But, no one is talking about this

Silence means everything is okay

Silence means everything is okay

I can’t tell you how many couples don’t talk when things are bad.  They just keep silent expecting … I don’t know what.  I guess they expect that their spouse will get the hint and change.  The problem is that sometimes the issue isn’t the

The dual control model - Why you sometimes can't get in the mood for sex

The dual control model – Why you sometimes can’t get in the mood for sex

Alright, today we’re going to talk a bit about the dual control model of sexual arousal.  I think people probably know this inherently, but sometimes it’s good to put things on paper, as it were, to make them clear. So, the dual control model of