Those of you who have been reading this blog for a while know that the most dangerous day of the year for marriages is sneaking up fast. That’s right, Mother’s Day. So, this year I thought I’d give you fair warning. Give you a chance to prepare, so that you aren’t caught unawares. And, it just so happens that I’ve even got a gift suggestion. It’s a pretty awesome one actually. While I know someone out there will have a wife who will hate it, I think most of them would absolutely melt at this. Continue reading
I’ve reading some of the comments from our making home videos and taking home pictures survey (please fill it out if you haven’t already), and I noticed a lot of spouses saying they’ve be afraid of someone seeing the pictures or video. Completely understandable.
But this sparked a thought in my mind, it’s a bit of a tangent, but here it is. The rest of the world is watching, in a sense. I think often we think that the non-Christian world just ignores us, and let’s us live out our lives. But, that’s not the case, is it? They may watch silently, it may even be passive, they may not even realize they’re watching, but our marriages show something. Ideally they should model a biblical marriage, including a healthy, intimate, sex life with our spouse.
And you know what, people notice when you do.
I thought I’d write a quick post about this, because it seems that it’s not always a well known concept. It’s the basic idea that your sex life seems to have inertia. For those of you with Physics backgrounds, we could say it follow Newton’s First Law, also known as the Law of Inertia. For those who don’t, here’s the Law of Inertia:
An object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.
So, what does this have to do with marriage and/or sex?
This discussion comes up a lot when talking about sex. It’s usually framed around the concept of rights and duties. But marriage isn’t about rights and duties, it’s about love, respect, and service. One of our readers asked for a post on this topic during one of our surveys:
biblical context or statements about sexual ‘rights’ during sickness. I always feel bad about the fact that my husbands needs aren’t met when I am sick, or after childbirth, etc…
So, I thought I’d tackle it, and see if I can answer, what I believe, is the proper biblical context for this type of discussion.
We’ve been talking a bit about pornography, movies with erotic content and such in them lately, and this has spawned a lot of people to ask questions about whether or not it’s okay to take home videos and/or pictures of your spouse for your enjoyment and others asking how common this is. So, I thought I’d put out a survey, since we haven’t had one in a bit and ask the questions we’d need to find out.
Whether you have done this, haven’t, want to or don’t, we need your data to answer these questions. So, be brave, answer truthfully so that you can lend your help to this cause.
Last month my pastor did a sermon series on the life of David, and he brought out a point that I felt had applications in marriage. It’s the idea of being careful who you listen to, because they can invade your thoughts, they can mess with your mind, your perceptions and ultimately your decisions and behaviors. Don’t remember that in the story of David? Let me walk you through it.