Comments for Sex Within Marriage http://sexwithinmarriage.com Hot and Monogamous, just as God intended Tue, 30 Jun 2015 03:19:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.2 Comment on Are you willing to hold people accountable to their vows? by FarAboveRubieshttp://sexwithinmarriage.com/are-you-willing-to-hold-people-accountable-to-their-vows/#comment-488066 Tue, 30 Jun 2015 03:19:07 +0000 http://sexwithinmarriage.com/?p=3572#comment-488066 I agree with you, Keelie. As an older married woman, I feel the need to encourage wives with young children. Irl, I will go up to complete strangers (younger wives with babies or toddlers) and let them know that this was the hardest time in our marriage. Between diapering and nursing I barely had time for myself let alone my husband. I was truly exhausted. I let these young mothers know that this is just a short season in their marriage. I encourage them to concentrate on their husbands, no matter what, even though they are exhausted. I tell them that children thrive when Mom and Dad have a good connection. I tell them that everything gets much better if they can hold on. The children do become more independent. Then these young wives will have more energy for everything. I hope it encourages them to focus on their marriage.

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Comment on Are you willing to hold people accountable to their vows? by Keelie Reasonhttp://sexwithinmarriage.com/are-you-willing-to-hold-people-accountable-to-their-vows/#comment-488062 Tue, 30 Jun 2015 02:44:55 +0000 http://sexwithinmarriage.com/?p=3572#comment-488062 I definitely think we need to speak up to those in our lives get off track in their marriage. I am not sure you can do this with everyone you encounter, but you should be doing this for people you know. Marriage is tough and it takes us all encouraging each other.

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Comment on I want my husband to want me by Tychehttp://sexwithinmarriage.com/i-want-my-husband-to-want-me/#comment-487998 Mon, 29 Jun 2015 09:12:48 +0000 http://sexwithinmarriage.com/?p=832#comment-487998 I can also relate. I am smitten with my husband, we’ve only been married a little over a year and experienced the same thing on the night we got married, I am completely attracted to him, physically, and emotionally and he has no desire for me anymore. He says he does but by his actions he doesn’t. It’s like pulling teeth to get him to want to have sex with me and it only happens on his watch. I think if he had it his way he’d be ok with never having it at all, I tell him that all the time too. I am so sad and depressed and feel unattractive and unloved by this.

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Comment on Are you willing to hold people accountable to their vows? by Sherriehttp://sexwithinmarriage.com/are-you-willing-to-hold-people-accountable-to-their-vows/#comment-487978 Mon, 29 Jun 2015 05:14:58 +0000 http://sexwithinmarriage.com/?p=3572#comment-487978 Our marriage is failing, my husband started using meth 10 years into our marriage. We’ve been struggling for 4 years now. I’ve asked his family to hold him, and I for my anger, accountable and they are not willing to help and our church won’t let us go to marriage counseling until he’s clean. I pray for accountability for us both, to each other.

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Comment on Are you willing to hold people accountable to their vows? by Jay Deehttp://sexwithinmarriage.com/are-you-willing-to-hold-people-accountable-to-their-vows/#comment-487925 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 17:30:21 +0000 http://sexwithinmarriage.com/?p=3572#comment-487925 I think you did what you should have done. You rebuked her, you tried to teach her. But you can’t force her to change. She still has free will.

Personally, I think I’d raise concerns if she was leading a women’s or family ministry, but other than that, you did what the Bible says, you confronted her. There’s no sense beating her over the head with it. All you can do now is model and teach those who are willing to listen. That’s my thoughts anyways.

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Comment on Are you willing to hold people accountable to their vows? by FarAboveRubieshttp://sexwithinmarriage.com/are-you-willing-to-hold-people-accountable-to-their-vows/#comment-487919 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 17:06:49 +0000 http://sexwithinmarriage.com/?p=3572#comment-487919 We have fellowship following church services. One time the subject of submission came up during fellowship. The pastor’s wife openly and boldly told all of us that being a submissive wife is wrong and she will never be that way ever again. She shared how she was submissive when they first got married and she was miserable. They were teenagers when they got married. I tried to explain that with maturity comes wisdom and she shot me down. It is obvious that I’m a submissive wife and I’m willing to be submissive. I love to serve my husband. When I shared this with her, she said I was in error. She told me how she’s not going to be anybody’s doormat (that was a direct quote). Her husband (the pastor) just stood there without words. Nobody else challenged the pastor’s wife’s attitude either. It still grieves me today. How do you try to correct wrong thinking? What would you do?

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Comment on My Husband Admitted To Masturbating, How Do I Get Over The Hurt? by Jay Deehttp://sexwithinmarriage.com/my-husband-admitted-to-masturbating-how-do-i-get-over-the-hurt/#comment-487912 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 15:06:24 +0000 http://sexwithinmarriage.com/?p=499#comment-487912 They’re not being melodramatic. They are hurt because their spouse is not living up to their vows. The Bible says that their body is not their own, but their wives, and they just found out their husband is experiencing sexual experiences alone, something that is intended for a married couple to experience together. I think they’re rightfully upset, and it’s certainly not a silly issue.

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Comment on My Husband Admitted To Masturbating, How Do I Get Over The Hurt? by Aussie Blokehttp://sexwithinmarriage.com/my-husband-admitted-to-masturbating-how-do-i-get-over-the-hurt/#comment-487911 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 15:01:07 +0000 http://sexwithinmarriage.com/?p=499#comment-487911 I just can’t believe how many Christian women are so melodramatic over silly little issues like masturbation. Honey, his body creates semen, and that needs to be released somehow. Wet dreams are nasty. Masturbation to release semen is just a body maintenance chore, not much different to washing his hair or shaving. How do you think he took care of his needs before he married you?

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Comment on My Husband Admitted To Masturbating, How Do I Get Over The Hurt? by Jay Deehttp://sexwithinmarriage.com/my-husband-admitted-to-masturbating-how-do-i-get-over-the-hurt/#comment-487909 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 14:51:34 +0000 http://sexwithinmarriage.com/?p=499#comment-487909 Yes, it can be a problem for men as well.

Though I personally disagree that masturbation is simply body maintenance.

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Comment on My Husband Admitted To Masturbating, How Do I Get Over The Hurt? by Aussie Blokehttp://sexwithinmarriage.com/my-husband-admitted-to-masturbating-how-do-i-get-over-the-hurt/#comment-487908 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 14:48:51 +0000 http://sexwithinmarriage.com/?p=499#comment-487908 Sometimes us men have some problems with sex with women. I grew up in a family where sex was considered dirty and nasty. Then the neighbour kids showed me their father’s porn, and again, it just seemed dirty. So years later, I married a lovely girl, but discovered I had a problem. In my mind there was a big gap between love and sex. If I loved my wife, I would feel guilty about having sex with her, cos that was nasty. So for years, after every time we had intercourse, I would apologise to my wife for having had sex with her. It just seemed to be treating her badly. So to be loving to her, and avoid using her for nasty purposes, sometimes it seemed better to masturbate.

Of course, some times men have too much semen, which is uncomfortable, and wet dreams are not pleasant, so men have to release the semen, and that’s easier and quicker by masturbation. It’s body maintenance, and doesn’t mean much more than washing your hair or shaving, for instance.

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