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Your spouse’ sin doesn’t counterbalance yours

Not a week goes by that I don’t see this portrayed in a comment or email from a reader.  Their spouse has committed, or is committing, some sin, and so their response is that they have to do something wrong as well.  Sometimes it’s a retaliation,

Analingus, Rimming, Oral-Anal Sex

Analingus / rimming / oral-anal sex

This is another topic I’ve been avoiding for a while. I mean, people get upset enough when I mention anal sex. But to talk about kissing or licking the anus … well, I’m bracing myself for the comments.  But, no one is talking about this

Delayed Ejaculation

Delayed Ejaculation

I had intended to write this post last year some time, after our orgasm difficulties survey.  But, I guess I got sidetracked with a bunch of other topics, and it was forgotten until yesterday’s post.  It’s a bit ironic that the post on delayed ejaculation

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SWM026: Last Minute Father’s Day Gift Ideas

Father’s Day is this Sunday, and I thought we’d share some last-minute Father’s Day gifts for those wives who listen to the podcast.  We’ve got some free options, some not-so-free options and some options that are a bit of an investment, but all of them

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SWM025: Preparing for Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is coming up this Sunday, so thought I’d talk briefly about why father’s should celebrate Mother’s Day in honour of their wives.  And today, my wife, Christina, has made the time to join me on this episode.  Sort of to make up for the

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SWM024: Why Do Men Think Sex is a Reward?

O ften men see sex as a reward, even when it’s not intended for one.  Conversely, if they don’t have sex, sometimes they feel punished, or that they failed at something.  Why is this?  I think there are three reasons: Hormones – specifically dopamine, the

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SWM023: It’s all about the relationship

The Bible uses marriage as a metaphor for God’s relationship with us many times.  I think there’s a good reason for it.  In this podcast episode, I discuss my belief that all the do’s and don’ts, both in marriage, and in the Bible, point to

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SWM022: Does my spouse find me unattractive

A couple of years ago I got a message from a reader who was beside herself with unfounded fears that her husband was no longer attracted to her.  She hadn’t asked him.  She had no indication that he wasn’t, but she had this deep seated fear

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SWM021: Spice Jar

I didn’t have much time this week to record, so this is a very short podcast episode to let you know about our marriage challenge this week to help you break out of a sexual rut, as well as our new product: The Spice Jar –

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SWM020: 7 Dirty Fighting Techniques That Should Not Exist In Your Marriage

I once heard it said that the definition of conflict is two people in the same ZIP code.  Well, in marriage the people are a lot closer than that, and this inevitably spawns conflict.  Now, conflict isn’t bad, in fact, it can be good and

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SWM019: How long does a sexual awakening take?

Sexual awakenings are a point where a low-drive, gatekeeper or refusing spouse suddenly realizes that sex is important to the marriage, and that their behaviour needs to change.  However, just because there is often a single instant where this realization becomes clear, it can take