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Your spouse’ sin doesn’t counterbalance yours

Not a week goes by that I don’t see this portrayed in a comment or email from a reader.  Their spouse has committed, or is committing, some sin, and so their response is that they have to do something wrong as well.  Sometimes it’s a retaliation,

Analingus / rimming / oral-anal sex

This is another topic I’ve been avoiding for a while. I mean, people get upset enough when I mention anal sex. But to talk about kissing or licking the anus … well, I’m bracing myself for the comments.  But, no one is talking about this

Delayed Ejaculation

I had intended to write this post last year some time, after our orgasm difficulties survey.  But, I guess I got sidetracked with a bunch of other topics, and it was forgotten until yesterday’s post.  It’s a bit ironic that the post on delayed ejaculation

SWM025: Preparing for Mother’s Day

Podcast: Play in new window | Download | EmbedSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSMother’s Day is coming up this Sunday, so thought I’d talk briefly about why father’s should celebrate Mother’s Day in honour of their wives.  And today, my wife, Christina, has made the time

SWM024: Why Do Men Think Sex is a Reward?

Podcast: Play in new window | Download | EmbedSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSOften men see sex as a reward, even when it’s not intended for one.  Conversely, if they don’t have sex, sometimes they feel punished, or that they failed at something.  Why is

SWM023: It’s all about the relationship

Podcast: Play in new window | Download | EmbedSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSThe Bible uses marriage as a metaphor for God’s relationship with us many times.  I think there’s a good reason for it.  In this podcast episode, I discuss my belief that all

SWM022: Does my spouse find me unattractive

Podcast: Play in new window | Download | EmbedSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSA couple of years ago I got a message from a reader who was beside herself with unfounded fears that her husband was no longer attracted to her.  She hadn’t asked him.  She

SWM021: Spice Jar

Podcast: Play in new window | Download | EmbedSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSI didn’t have much time this week to record, so this is a very short podcast episode to let you know about our marriage challenge this week to help you break out

SWM020: 7 Dirty Fighting Techniques That Should Not Exist In Your Marriage

Podcast: Play in new window | Download | EmbedSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSI once heard it said that the definition of conflict is two people in the same ZIP code.  Well, in marriage the people are a lot closer than that, and this inevitably

SWM019: How long does a sexual awakening take?

Podcast: Play in new window | Download | EmbedSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSSexual awakenings are a point where a low-drive, gatekeeper or refusing spouse suddenly realizes that sex is important to the marriage, and that their behaviour needs to change.  However, just because there

SWM018: Judaism had it right all along

Podcast: Play in new window | Download | EmbedSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSLet’s face it, Christianity is not the perfect religion we like to make it out to be.  At least, not the way we imperfect humans play it out in our lives.  And